After 10 years with "J", I am now getting divorced and loosing my house in a short sale. (If you want to know how this all happened, I would recommend reading
this post here and this post here) But I am young, only 25, and I have started to close that chapter and explore the next. This is where I find out what I am made of. This is where I seek 'me'

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

The Questions I Dont Want Answers To....

On Sunday I made the mistake of asking J a few questions. After hours of packing up my house - it just got to me....

"Am I that bad that you had to go to M? My best friend?"

J just sat there with his lips sucked it and hands clasped together....he didn’t answer but I know what he was thinking....

I have so many unanswered questions...

I want to know why he did this to me. Why was he fooling around with M while he was unemployed - he could have been looking for a job and saving our house. Why was he taking me to the baby doctor to talk about pregnancy? Why didn’t he tell me he was unhappy - why didn't he suggest counseling? Why isn’t he remorseful - why isn’t he trying to amend things and save our marriage?

I want to know the answers to badly

But I also don't want to know - I am afraid of the answers because I know they aren’t the ones I want to hear.

J isn’t going to tell me the right words - he isn’t going to console me - make me feel better - or make things right.

And that just kills me....

I am left to fix the shattered pieces of my life by myself

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